Commitment ClarityBeta
Eight conversations worth having before you decide.
Not a test and not a score. Sit together, take one area at a time, and let each person answer honestly before you respond to each other. A difference discovered now is a conversation; discovered later, it can become a grievance.
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Imagine an ordinary weekday a few years from now — not a holiday. Who wakes up where, who handles what, and does that picture look the same for both of you?
Each of you answers separately first. Then listen — the goal is to understand, not to win.
You are offered an important opportunity in another city, but moving would mean your partner giving something up. How do you imagine the two of you would make that decision?
Each of you answers separately first. Then listen — the goal is to understand, not to win.
Your family strongly wants one thing and your partner wants another. When you imagine being caught between them, how do you think decisions should be made?
Each of you answers separately first. Then listen — the goal is to understand, not to win.
One of you earns significantly more, or one person's income changes for a period. What would 'fair' financial responsibility look like to you?
Each of you answers separately first. Then listen — the goal is to understand, not to win.
Your partner mentions something private between you two to friends or family — a fight, a habit, a plan. What feels okay to share, and what should stay between you two?
Each of you answers separately first. Then listen — the goal is to understand, not to win.
Children: whether, when, how many, and what happens if your answers do not match?
Each of you answers separately first. Then listen — the goal is to understand, not to win.
What are you quietly hoping will change after marriage, moving in, or having a child?
Each of you answers separately first. Then listen — the goal is to understand, not to win.
What is the question you are afraid to ask before saying yes?
Each of you answers separately first. Then listen — the goal is to understand, not to win.
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